Showing posts with label experience. Show all posts
Showing posts with label experience. Show all posts

Monday, November 7, 2011

How valued our children (cont.) ~ Smiles and Inspiration 2012 ~ Volume 1 Issue 7 Day 311 of 365

“Affirming words from moms and dads are like light switches. 
Speak a word of affirmation at the right moment in a child’s life and
 it’s like lighting up a whole roomful of possibilities.”


- Gary Smalley

Yesterday we spoke about the empty nest what silence it brings.  On how the six human needs that we learned in school interact with who and what we need and what we are as parents.


Our children do grow up and if you have kids at home, as I do, you cherish each day and each moment.  


I do tell me kids, both of them that I am not here to be their friend.  I am here to be their father.  Thats my job and I take it seriously.  They understand and they are both awesome and loving children.  I told them both that this morning, they know how awesome I think they are.


So yesterday we did the first three human needs 

Need # 1  

The need of certainty and comfort.

Need # 2

Uncertainty and Variety

Need # 3

Significance


So today, we move on to:


Need # 4  


Connection and Love


The connection that a mother has with her son or daughter is amazing.  The connection between twins is  also hard for another person to understand but there is that connection with out a doubt.


Any parent knows the special bond with a child, can be another baby from across the room and we can empathize with the parent.   The love in the eyes that we send across that room and know that was us at some point in parenthood.  We loved, we admired, we protected and with out  any doubt we would do anything for our children.


That connection is so very solid.


When a parent loses a child, whether at a store, or in life the panic and the pain and the sorrow is so very large.  In life when a child is lost to this world, our world we never ever forget.  We don't we love them and miss them and want to hold them just one more time.  That feeling goes on - forever.......


Connection and love is always present in parenthood and it is so very dominating in any parents life.


Need # 5


Growth


Oh how we love to watch our children grow.  We want the very best for them but we get excited marking the growth on the wall with a pencil each time we see growth.  We look at pictures of them all through our life to remind us how quickly they grew.  It is amazing : )


These are my two my favorite picture of all time.  : )



I love that picture.  Sure you have one that you cherish.  

That picture shows growth.  Where they were and where they are now.

What magic that growth happens in front of our eyes and it amazes as we grow older.

Need # 6

Contribution

We have and we still do contribute.  It is important to know that we have.  That we raised our children to be contributors themselves.

That we know as we pass on they will have a life of their own and breathed easier because we lived.

We hope that we did enough, that we raised our children to make wise choices.  Our parents hoped that for us, did we make mistakes?  Oh did we.....lol.   Yes they will to its called an education, learning the ropes that we carry are there for us and even if we are at the very end of the rope we hold on and climb back up to higher ground.

The contribution we can make in this world is so massive we hardly recognize it.

We can be a parent, a friend to others, an ear for those who need it, arms for those to hold, and a smile to be shared with another to just maybe lighten a load.  The power is yours my friend.

Make a difference.  You did as a parent and even if you are not a parent, maybe just maybe you watch over another child as if it was your own, with love and patience.

Till next time..... Smiles sent your way ; )






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Some events to think about on this day

1929 – In New York City, the Museum of Modern Art opens to the public.


1940 – In Tacoma, Washington, the original Tacoma Narrows Bridge collapses in a windstorm, a mere four months after the bridge's completion.


1941 – World War II: Soviet hospital ship Armenia is sunk by German planes while evacuating refugees and wounded military and staff of several Crimean hospitals. It is estimated that over 5,000 people died in the sinking.

1944 – Franklin D. Roosevelt elected for a record fourth term as President of the United States of America.

1967 – Carl B. Stokes is elected as Mayor of Cleveland, Ohio, becoming the first African American mayor of a major American city.

1967 – US President Lyndon B. Johnson signs the Public Broadcasting Act of 1967, establishing the Corporation for Public Broadcasting.

1973 – The U.S. Congress overrides President Richard M. Nixon's veto of the War Powers Resolution, which limits presidential power to wage war without congressional approval.


1983 – 1983 United States Senate bombing: a bomb explodes inside the United States Capitol. No people are harmed, but an estimated $250,000 in damage is caused.


1989 – Douglas Wilder wins the governor's seat in Virginia, becoming the first elected African American governor in the United States.


1990 – Mary Robinson becomes the first woman to be elected President of the Republic of Ireland.


1991 – Magic Johnson announces that he is infected with HIV and retires from the NBA.


2000 – Hillary Rodham Clinton is elected to the United States Senate, becoming the first former First Lady to win public office in the United States, although actually she still was the First Lady.


2000 – The U.S. Drug Enforcement Administration discovers one of the country's largest LSD labs inside a converted military missile silo in Wamego, Kansas.


2002 – Iran bans advertising of United States products.


2007 – Jokela school shooting in Tuusula, Finland, resulting in the death of nine people.




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Your Daily Prayer 


Thank you for the awesome gift of parenthood.  May I always feel that first day that they came in this world, in my arms, in my heart and became not just a responsibility but so much more.


Thank you for their health and may you always protect and when that time comes for them to have children may you give them wisdom and patience and direction.


Thank you for this gift called parenthood.


Amen

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Sunday, November 6, 2011

How valued our children ~ Smiles and Inspiration 2012 ~ Volume 1 Issue 6 Day 310 of 365

A child enters your home and for the next twenty years makes so much noise you can hardly stand it. 

 The child departs, leaving the house so silent you think you are going mad.  

~John Andrew Holmes


The empty nest what a silence it has in those first few days, weeks and months.  Oh sure we adjust and for some we look forward to the visits or our trips to their homes.  We talk on the phone with them more or maybe wait for the phone to announce a new text has arrived.  The silence of a home that our children no longer occupy.

I have two wonderful kids and they live here, the noise and the clatter are like music to my ears.  The voice that says 'hey day' a cherished moment.  I truly enjoy these years. I hope they last much, much longer.  The give me many of my human needs.

The six human needs that your read about in school.  You remember right?

Need # 1  

The need of certainty and comfort.

The sound of your kids playing in the yard laughing, maybe running, dashing thru the water sprinkler as a kid, or sliding on the slip and slide.  This laughter gave you comfort that things are right in the world.  Everything is as it should be.

Or maybe the sound of the school bus as they await to get on it in the morning.  That sound of the bus door as it opens and lets them on.  So much comfort to a parent those sounds. 

At the end of the day the sound of feet coming up the steps or the sound of the fridge being open and shut over and over as they decided what to snack on.  Comfort and certainty?  

You bet much to behold in this . much to behold indeed.

Need # 2

Uncertainty and Variety

So wonderful to hear the occasional banter of a brother and a sister.  We get to referee, we get to break it up, to bring silence once again.  

We help with the homework, the school project and wonder is this what the teacher wanted, do I know enough to help my child?  Then the grade comes in and its good and the uncertainty slips away until of course we have to 'do it again'.

The power of being a parent, the magic and value it holds.

Need # 3

Significance

Yes, no, maybe later the power these words mean to a child.  We wield them in a second.  We hear that phrase early on that asks the questions like....

'can I stay up later....'
'the car keys can I have them....'
'can I have my friends over tonight...'
'why am I grounded for TWO WEEKS! '

Yes we are significant and the love of any parent is the proper use of these words, yes, no and maybe later.  We have a right to use them all and often we are so glad that we had the power as a parent to utilize them.

Need # 4  we can cover on the next issue....... as well as #5 and #6.

I do want you to come back.  Right?  

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Some events to think about on this day

1935 – Parker Brothers acquires the forerunner patents for MONOPOLY from Elizabeth Magie.

1941 – World War II: Soviet leader Joseph Stalin addresses the Soviet Union for only the second time during his three-decade rule. He states that even though 350,000 troops were killed in German attacks so far, the Germans had lost 4.5 million soldiers and that Soviet victory was near.

1944 – Plutonium is first produced at the Hanford Atomic Facility and subsequently used in the Fat Man atomic bomb dropped on Nagasaki, Japan.


1947 – Meet the Press makes its television debut (the show went to a weekly schedule on September 12, 1948).

1962 – Apartheid: The United Nations General Assembly passes a resolution condemning South Africa's racist apartheid policies and calls for all UN member states to cease military and economic relations with the nation.

1965 – Cuba and the United States formally agree to begin an airlift for Cubans who want to go to the United States. By 1971, 250,000 Cubans made use of this program.

1971 – The United States Atomic Energy Commission tests the largest U.S. underground hydrogen bomb, code-named Cannikin, on Amchitka Island in the Aleutians.

1977 – The Kelly Barnes Dam, located above Toccoa Falls Bible College near Toccoa, Georgia, fails, killing 39.


2005 – The Evansville Tornado of November 2005 kills 25 in Northwestern Kentucky and Southwestern Indiana.

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Your Daily Prayer 


Thank you for the gift of parenthood and may you continue to give me wisdom in raising of my child/children.  May my love always be overflowing in their hearts and mind and may they become even better parents as they grow older.


Thank you lord for the awesome responsibility of raising a child with love and direction and yes correction.


In highest love and esteem 


Amen

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Friday, November 4, 2011

Friday, November 04, 2011 ~ Day 308 of 365 ~

“Experience is the child of thought, 

and thought is the child of action.” 

― Benjamin Disraeli

Every moment in life is an experience.  Sometimes however we let them pass by, we become sidetracked and derailed by a much more daunting thing. What ever that thing is we miss the experience and what we could of learned.

The other thought is only after the result do we see the experience and the lesson learned.

But somehow we should find a better way to pay attention.  To review the steps and actions we take.

I believe I truly believe that we all want much of the same things.

We all want to be loved, to share love.
We all want to be accepted and to share acceptance.

We hunger for peace and would most importantly do anything for everyone just to 'get along' and 'put a side' those petty differences.

We would do just about anything.

If we could stop hunger, we would.
If we could stop hate, we would.

But experience tells me that we have to start with ourselves.

We have to accept others despite our differences.
We have to love each other despite the apathy that this world can breed.

Experience is what we create each and every second of the day.

So with all that experience of wanting all of the same things, you have ask why can't we just pull it all together?

With all the resources that are plentiful, why can't we just share and help each other.

Why do we have homelessness?  Why do we have world hunger when we have so much food to share and to waste?

Why indeed.

So I write this during the month of Thanksgiving, when the turkeys are being frozen away.  While tickets are being bought to fly back home.  While the table menu is being set up may as you read this.

That is experience telling me this.  

Experience we all have it.  We just need to put the puzzle together with out losing any of the pieces.


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Some events to think about on this day

1924 – Nellie Tayloe Ross of Wyoming is elected the first female governor in the United States.

1955 – After being totally destroyed in World War II, the rebuilt Vienna State Opera reopens with a performance of Beethoven's Fidelio.

1960 – At the Kasakela Chimpanzee Community in Tanzania, Dr. Jane Goodall observes chimpanzees creating tools, the first-ever observation in non-human animals. 

1962 – In a test of the Nike-Hercules air defense missile, Shot Dominic-Tightrope is successfully detonated 69,000 feet above Johnston Island. It would also be the last atmospheric nuclear test conducted by the United States.

1966 – The River Arno flooded Florence, Italy, to a maximum depth of 6.7 m (22 ft), leaving thousands homeless and destroying millions of masterpieces of art and rare books.

1970 – Genie, a 13-year-old feral child is found in Los Angeles, California having been locked in her bedroom for most of her life.


1973 – The Netherlands experiences the first Car Free Sunday caused by the 1973 oil crisis. Highways are deserted and are used only by cyclists and roller skaters.


1979 – Iran hostage crisis begins: a group of Iranians, mostly students, invades the US embassy in Tehran and takes 90 hostages (53 of whom are American).


1994 – San Francisco: First conference that focuses exclusively on the subject of the commercial potential of the World Wide Web.


1995 – Israeli prime minister Yitzhak Rabin is assassinated by an extremist Orthodox Israeli.


2008 – Barack Obama becomes the first African-American to be elected President of the United States.

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A prayer for today....

God help me to pay attention to my steps, to my words.
Help me and guide me with the experience that I create everyday from my actions.
Give me eyes and ears to listen better.
Give me patience to speak less.
Guide me through my steps and help me to become a better keeper of myself  and those around me.

I love and praise I share your name  - - Amen



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